5 Reasons Getting Older Rocks

By Barbara Greenberg PhD

5 Reasons Getting Older RocksOh, those milestone birthdays—30, 40, 50. As women, we are acutely aware of our age—even if we decline to reveal it or claim to have lost track of the years. Our fear, of course, is that with each subsequent birthday, we become less socially desirable, less appealing and less attractive. But that couldn’t be further from the truth!

A Fresh Perspective

In my roles as clinical psychologist, friend and people-watcher, I have seen a different side of aging, or as I like to call it, “maturing.” Aging has a negative connotation, whereas maturing conveys dignity, wisdom and experience. Here, I’ve compiled the top reasons why getting older rocks. I can almost hear your collective sigh, but stay with me. I’d like to change your mind about aging and bring a smile to your face.

1. We’re emotional pros. After years of experience navigating relationships, we’ve learned to manage our emotions more effectively. We’ve chilled out. What may have sent us into a tailspin at age 30 slides right off our backs at age 41. Learning to keep perspective saves us, and those around us, from needless drama every day. #LESSEMOTIONALITY

2. We take me-time. Mature women have realized through the years that the world will not end if we take a little time for ourselves—even just to linger over coffee and the newspaper. While young women fret about taking me-time, we know that it’s not only fine but also smart to take time outs from the daily grind. It refills our proverbial cup so we have more to give when we return. #TIMEOUTS

3. We’re more forgiving. Women learn over time to give people the benefit of the doubt. If a good friend forgets to call or has to cancel plans, our younger selves might have gotten upset and even jumped to conclusions (we’re not friends anymore!). Now we’re more likely to give friends second chances, because we know that not everything is personal—and that life often gets in the way. #SECONDCHANCES

4. We put out good vibes. We truly understand the concept of karma—that the energy we put out into the world comes back to us, for better or worse. Younger women like batting around the term but they don’t tend to act on it. Mature women know that if you act from a place of good intention, your karma (or response from the world) will be positive. Good energy out is good energy in. #GOODKARMA

5. We waste less time. We know what works for us and what doesn’t. We’re less likely to stick with pursuits that are either uninteresting or have little benefit, because we know time is precious—and how it’s best spent. #WASTELESSTIME

So, the next time someone asks how old you are, feel free to say that you’ve celebrated a lot of birthdays—and that they’ve made you a calmer, kinder, happier person.

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Barbara Greenberg PhD

Dr. Barbara Greenberg, is a teen, adolescent, child & family psychologist and is licensed in Connecticut and New York. After 21 years of running an inpatient adolescent unit at a private psychiatric hospital in New York she moved on to private practice, consulting work, writing and media. She is the... more >>

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